1. Cry and cry until you die
HAHAHAHA KIDDING! Well, crying is indeed the effective way to let all the pain out. This is the first step in moving on. Crying helps you reduce the pain somehow but it doesn't mean that when you cry everything's gonna go back to its normal state.
2. Talk to your besties or to yourself
If you're uncomfortable opening up your story to your friends you can just talk to yourself. I know it sounds weird and insane but this will actually help you to slowly understand yourself and the situation you are going through. Trust me, speaking out your feelings to someone or to yourself will work.
3.Stalk him
I know that this tip is kinda negative but I'm pretty sure everyone's stalking their ex'es after break up so go ahead gurl! Just be careful cause you might hit the like button. Hahaha. But after stalking him for two to three days, you SHOULD STOP! Refrain from using you accounts even your phone. I suggest to put your phone into airplane mode or just let your friend hide your phone.HAHAHAHA! Does it make any sense?
4. EAT, SLEEP, REPEAT
The basic steps in moving on. It's okay. You can just do these two for the rest of the week but always remember that you should not let these steps eat you for a very long time.
5. Read books or listen to music
Read. Read. Read. If you're not enjoying books you can turn on your phone and speakers and just listen to your faves. It's okay to listen to your "theme songs" or to his favorite songs. It's part of moving on. You cannot just hide those songs or delete those just because it reminds you of all the memories that you had. Imagine this, if you're not used to hear those theme songs you had then you were in a coffee shop or in a restaurant then this certain song plays. So.... there you are teary eyed because you remember all of your mem'ries with him. Unlike when you're used to it, you'll be alright when you hear it.
6. Write!!
Compose poems, short stories, songs or just write on your journal everything!! Every heartaches, every pain. It's okay even if you messed up your hand writing or even if the ink smudge. It's more dramatic though. Hahahaha. But seriously, you can write "30 days of moving on" or any shit that you want to write about him. This could also be an alternative on step number 2.
7. Watch movies or series
Turn on your TV or your lappy. Go watch your fave movies or discover new series. Watch 'til 4AM or whatever. You can go with Nicholas Sparks love stories and cry in every scene that you picture yourself and your ex boyfriend. Or just cry just because you missed all the memories. It doesn't matter how many tissue rolls you used.
8. It's all about having time for yourself
That's all in first up to seventh steps. You can repeat it everyday but hey don't make it last forever. You have to get off your bed, fix yourself, take a shower, go with a spa or anything that will relax your mind and body.
9. It only reminds me of you
So this is the part where you think everything's going back to normal, you're wrong! Because everything you see or anything that you do, it feels like he's still there looking at you. You'll see him in your favorite coffee shop or restaurant, you'll feel his presence everywhere, you'll see him everywhere!!! Feels like a nightmare dear. You'll remember him while you're eating,laughing, or just sitting. Everytime you see your giant teddy that he gave you during your anniv will make you sad. So I suggest, grab all those stuff and put it in a box or anything just to keep it away from you. Hide it. OR BURN IT BABY.
10. Go out with your friends
You need to socialize. You need to meet new people in your life. This is another chapter girl! But always remember that you go out because you don't want to isolate yourself from your friends not meeting new guys and flirt with them. THAT IS A BIG NO.
11. Always smile and be thankful because you learn a new lesson
Whether you like it or not, at the end of the day it's still the experience and the lesson that counts. Even if you cry a gallon, it's all worth it. This moving on process helped you to know more of yourself and be stronger than ever.
12. Cry AGAIN
You'll never get rid of crying especially when you misses him. Again, it' okay there's nothing wrong in crying. Girls that cry a lot are the bravest!
